The Rise of Promiscuity in the Western Societies

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Promiscuous lifestyle in the West gained its full momentum in 1960s with the emergence of Teen Age Liberation movement but its roots can be traced back to the sexual anarchy of Greek and Roman civilizations. The extreme repressive attitude of the Catholic Church in the middle Ages towards sex was in itself a reaction to the unrestrained sexual freedom of the Romans. Hence, in order to counteract this libertine atmosphere, the pendulum of sex was made to swing from one extreme to the other. Catholic Church started viewing sex even between spouses as an unavoidable evil only necessary for the purpose of procreation. They had reached to such an extreme that they used to burn women for imagined crimes of having sexual relations with the devil. This was followed by the age of Enlightenment and scientific revolution in Europe hence pushing the pendulum back to the licentious overflow of the sexual revolution.


St. Paul (also known as Saul, born in Tarsus on 4 C.E.; died in 64 C.E.), who is considered to be the founder of Christianity, himself suffered failure in his love. During his youth when St. Paul was a Jew, he fell in love with a woman named Popea, the daughter of the high priest of Jews.

She possessed haunting beauty. She liked Paul but then she rejected his offers of marriage and went to Rome as an actress. She started her career on the stage and, while climbing the ladder step by step, she reached the Roman emperor who finally married her. Popea became the Empress of the Roman Empire. Paul’s conversion to Christianity occurred right after his being rejected by Popea. It could be one of the major reasons Paul resented both the Jews and the Romans. Perhaps that could also be the reason why Paul never married and he used to preach others to abstain from marital relationships. His famous dictum in Bible is: “I say therefore to the unmarried and the widows, it is good for them if they can abide even as I.” (I Corinthians 7: 8)


St. Augustine (354 – 430 C.E.), who was the greatest Christian theologian of his time, in his famous spiritual autobiography The Confessions admitted that during his youth, he used to visit the prostitutes regularly and along with it, he used to pray to God: “Oh God! Give me chastity and continence, but not yet.” However, when he converted to Christianity, St. Augustine thought it was necessary to renounce sex. He once wrote: “Nothing is so much to be shunned as sex relations.” The Church even frowned upon the “excessive” love of a husband to his wife. St. Jerome clearly stated that a man who loved his wife “too ardently” was an adulterer, an argument that was recently approved by Pope John Paul II in 1980. It was the result of such unnatural rigidity that the sexual revolution emerged in the West and, today it is exported to the whole world with the help of media. Hence, Valentine’s Day can be regarded as the birthday of sexual revolution in the West. Today, television dramas, movies, music shows, internet advertisement banners, lewd novels and glossy magazines not only ignite the sexual passions of the youth but also teach them the latest and most innovative methods of romance and premarital relationships. Boys and girls engage in premarital love using emails, Internet chatting and cell phones and on Valentine’s Day they utilize these methods to the maximum. Similarly, in Muslim countries, musical concerts are arranged on Valentine’s Day, which are the breeding places of corruption and boys and girls attending those concerts are advised to dress in red color shirts and, in this way, incite the passions of the opposite sex. It is interesting to note that in the Christian art, red color is associated with Satan (devil). It is not a coincidence when Qur’an tells us that Satan exhorts the human beings to become immodest:

“Satan threatens you with poverty and orders you to commit immoral and shameless acts (fahshaa), whereas Allah promises you Forgiveness from Himself and Bounty.” (Surah Al-Baqarah: verse 268)

It is little wonder that festivals like Valentine’s Day have resulted in increased corruptions in societies. For instance, journalist Amelia Wasserman noted that more married men and women have started to cheat in their marital relationships after the advent of festivals like Valentine’s Day, resulting in increased cases of adultery and dumping of the marital partner. Wasserman wrote:


“In 2010, the Canadian Adultery site, Ashley Madison, reported a spike of new registrations from both men and women the day after Valentine's Day."


Islam is a religion in complete agreement with human nature and Muslim nation has been made a ‘just nation’ (Ummatun wasat) by Allah (“Thus We have made you a just nation, so that you be witness over mankind and the Messenger (peace be upon him) be a witness over you.” Surah Al-Baqarah: Verse143) Unlike St. Jerome’s point of view about a man’s love for his wife, Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said:

You should marry those women who love their husbands very much and who are very fertile.”(Sunan Abu Dawud; Sunan An-Nisai; Musnad Ahmed)

Islamic scholars of hadeeth or Prophetic traditions have explained that these two traits can be judged in a potential bride by looking at other women of her family. Islam like other religions strongly bans adultery, sodomy and other forms of fornication. However, unlike other religions, Islam does not look at sex as an evil, unavoidable pleasure for procreation. Pleasure and procreation are not contradictory. They are two sides of the same coin of divine grace. Islam is not against marriage but, in fact, Islam is the only religion, which openly commands to arrange the marriages as soon as possible (Surah Nur: verse 32) However, Islam is against all unnatural and premarital relationships of men and women. Islam prohibits all the means and inroads that lead the person to fornication. Moreover, the fact that marriages are greatly delayed in some Muslim societies due to excessive expenses and wasting of wealth associated with marriages (and as a result licentious atmosphere and various moral diseases are born in those societies) has nothing to do with Islamic teachings. Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) advised the youth:

“O Youth! He who can afford to marry should marry, because it will help him refrain from looking at other women and it will protect his honor.” (Saheeh Bukhari & Muslim)

The Qur’an clearly asserts that Allah created the spouses of the two sexes to provide them with love, mercy and tranquility and this is regarded as one of the signs of Allah. ”And among His Signs is this that He created for you mates from among yourselves that ye may dwell in tranquility with them and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts); verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.” (Surah Ar-Rum: 21). There lies great wisdom in the naming of the Qur’anic surahs or chapters. In the Qur’an, the relationship of the husband-wife is described in Surah Rum (The Romans) because Romans were the ones who took the culture of lewdness to its climax and now centuries later this culture has been revived by the ones who regard themselves as the descendants of the Romans. This is the culture that is against the legal relationships of husband and wife but it encourages homosexuality and premarital sex. This is the culture, which discourages the binding of men and women in the sacred relationship of marriage but, on the other hand, endorses the free mixing and lovemaking on such festivals as Valentine’s Day. This is the culture that supports birth control because the birth of children results in a deeper and stronger relationship between husband and wife. This is the culture in which a prostitute has more respect than a mother because a prostitute leaves the home to earn money whereas a mother is not a wage earner who stays home to up bring and educate her children.



Ata’ur-Rahim, Muhammad and Thomson, Ahmad (1996) Jesus: Prophet of Islam. London, Ta-Ha Publishers.  

Rathus, Spencer A. (1983) Human Sexuality. New York, Holt, Rhinehart and Winston.  

Waserman, Amelia (February 14, 2011) "Stats Show Valentine's Day is Bad for Your Relationship" Technorati (http:/  

Ibn Hajar al-Asqalaani has noted in Fath ul Baari that this hadeeth has been narrated by various chains of narrators and it is saheeh (authentic).  

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